Divorce:
Of all the catastrophe's that can happen in life, divorce is second only to the death of a spouse; it's a horror story, yet young people rush into marriage with their eyes wide shut. More than fifty percent of all divorce is to those under 25; that should tell you the youth of this country are not being realistic, when it comes to choosing their mates. They seem to go into marriage with the option that if it doesn't work out they'll get divorced; the problem with this line of insanity is the children involved.
The women in the US don't seem to care about the welfare of their children, when they want out of a marriage they run for some parasite lawyer; then off they trot to the welfare office, becoming dependents of the American taxpayer.
The AFDC is paying out over 22 billion dollars per year; over 60% of this is to women under 25 with dependent children. Women have come to realize that they don't need a husband, the first few problems that arise and they throw their husband out. Let me make one thing clear; I'm not advocating that women or men for that matter should have to live within a dysfunctional marriage, the point I shall make in this article is that young people have got to get realistic in their choice of spouses.
The American taxpayers have to send a message to politicians who offer welfare for votes. It's gotten to the point of being insane; it's absolutely stupid to permit our politicians to hand out over 22 billion of the taxpayers money to a bunch of deadbeats who want out of their marriage. Some women have made a career out of having babies, just to bleed the taxpayer out of more money.
Personally I don't think any man should get married tell he’s at least 35, for women 25, now before you run out and put a price on my head, let me give you this idea. If you can't live without this new love of your life, live together, but do it right. Draw up a yearly contract, stipulating NO KIDS, describe in exact detail what you both expect in this union, list all assets and liabilities, and who is responsible for what, right down to the toothbrushes.
I really hate to advise you to have a lawyer draw up this contract but if you don't do it right it will not stand up in court; you may end in court, but not divorce court, and hopefully there will be no children to suffer threw your mistakes.
Who knows, after a few years you may even start to like each other, maybe even to respect each other.
What happens, after a few years you become accustomed to your partners idiosyncrasies; he may be a real asshole, she a screaming bitch, but you like each other. In public people are saying, wow those two are headed to the divorce court; thirty years later they're still battling but walking hand in hand. How can this happen. Well, they have learned how to get it all out in the open, no secrets, no games, they have their own system of communicating and for them it works.
We must start to make serious cuts in our divorce rates; it’s the last strong hold for the strength of America. In 1935 Will Durant wrote in his "The History of Civilization" and I'm not quoting word for word, that civilization as we know it will not fall do to Wars, Plagues, invasions, or any reason other than the destruction of the family unit; think about it, and give some thought to where we are today.
We have to make changes in our divorce laws, for one they must keep lawyers out of it, in some cases where it is necessary, have set fees. Many couples have had it all settled, right down to the child support, then a lawyer gets involved and it's a blood bath, in most cases the man gets it stuck where the sun don't shine.
Do you believe that men are at fault and with the wife winning custody of the children in over 97% of all divorce cases? She got the gold mine he got the shaft, funny, unless you are the one with the shaft sticking out your ass. Come on lets get real, tough yes but with justice, in case you gals have forgotten it's called equality, is that not what you've been fighting tooth and nail for all these years?
Judges have to start getting realistic as well; when they leave a guy with not enough money to buy a whopper for dinner he will eventually, fall behind in his payments; especially when judges find the man responsible for paying off both lawyers. When he does fall behind, here comes the legal system and there dead beat dad division. In many cases with the ex husband going to jail. Sure there are some real dead beats out there and they deserve what they get; unfortunately many so called dead beat dads are dead beats because of the legal system, and it must be changed.
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